Family, Motherhood

It’s what God gave you time for…

I love the saying “I was a perfect mother…until I had my first child”. Looking from the outside in it seems like such a simple task, wipe a few noses, bake a few cookies, read a few stories. If only it were that simple. The world as a whole does not value motherhood on a full time basis. The world says sure it’s nice to have one or two children, but why should women waste their skills staying home doing nothing?

Mother’s don’t just read stories, they plant seeds of character and imagination. Mother’s don’t just sing lullabies, they instill memories of love and a sense of belonging into the heart of a child. Mother’s don’t just pray, they build a foundation of faith so the child knows what path to follow. Mother’s don’t just teach, they inspire the love of learning and the desire to make a difference in the world. Mother’s don’t just have babies, they raise future leaders of nations.

There is no job, no career, no hobby more important, more valuable or more rewarding than that of a mother and no better place for a woman to use her skills and talents than in her own home. What divine qualities does a woman learn from the workplace? Motherhood teaches patience, unconditional love, forgiveness, mercy, grace, humility, long suffering and many more divine qualities that can help us be closer to God and the women He wants us to become.

For those who have been blessed with the ability to bear children and make sacrifices to stay home with them, I hope we realize how important it is. Every peanut butter smear on the counter, every spit up stain on our clothes, every sticky fingerprint on the windows are evidence of a great work taking place. The greatest work. Never diminish or downplay the importance of this great calling. We have the power to change the world.

Our talents are not being wasted, they are being used every day in the service of those we love most. In fact, we have greater opportunity to expand and enhance our talents because we are not locked into a single job description, we wear dozens of hats and are required to be proficient in dozens of areas. We are teachers, nurses, accountants, nutritionists, chefs, personal trainers, hospitality managers, veterinarians, travel agents, chauffeurs, you name it, we do it. We have no sick days, we have no vacation time. We get no raise.

So, while the White House tweets remarks about providing free birth control and flippantly says “Happy Mother’s Day”, the jerk at the grocery store looks at you with your half dozen children and another on the way and says “you know what causes that right?” or the other stares, whispers and laughs echo in your ears, replace it instead with this wisdom from Rachel Jankovic:

Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. You do not collect children because you find them cuter than stamps. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.”   

Happy Mother’s Day!